Friday, November 18, 2011

some thoughts

This picture has been floating around pinterest (along with many like it) and had this comment "Not a good goal in my opinion. This woman is FAR skinnier than she should be. Note the collar bones visible at the shoulder, and her protruding hip bones. This woman should eat a lot more and lift some heavy weights to put on some healthy weight. :-)" How many of us would agree with that statement? Most of us I'm sure. Afterall, we're mature, sophisticated, educated, women (and men) who know that there is more to life and love than simply being skinny. We know that you can be healthy and happy at just about any weight. But do we really believe that?

I first saw this picture and read its comment I was hurt. This is basically what I look like, and, yet, I do everything suggested in the comment. I lift weights several times a week. I eat alot, and frankly not very well. I eat more than my husband; more than my little brother going through puberty and in the middle of his growth spurt. In all honesty, I felt like I was being judged. The comment wasn't made by anyone I know and wasn't even directed at me, but it still hurt. And the more I thought about that the worse I felt. Not for myself but for the women in our society. This is what 'overweight' women go through all the time and it makes me sick. This understanding that other people are judging them and finding them lacking. That there's something wrong with them. It's not right. I think that there's something wrong with us that we even think that way.